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The Cold August Winds Of Change.

The July Ultimate Blog Challenge (UBC) is done and dusted for another year. August has arrived, and in my little corner of the world, August means windy weather. Cold and wet, windy weather. And this year, the August winds have brought with them a message of change. 

UBC is designed to motivate bloggers to post a new blog on their website each day of the month. The July challenge was no different. Again, I fell short of the goal, but old habits die hard, and new habits are hard to establish. I tried. I failed. But I learned a lot in the process, and that’s what matters most.

Life Happens

My excuse is that life happens, and it is those life-happenings that are the canvas on which we create new blogs. 

July came with no shortage of life-events, and now I have plenty of empty canvases, just waiting to be filled. But the winds of change are howling around me, screaming for me to abandon this site, for a while, in order to fill the blank spaces of my Family History blog site. 

A domain name needs to reflect the theme of the website it belongs to. This website and blog, aptly named, is about me: my community, my travels, my thoughts, likes, dislikes, and my life in general. When I needed a more specific blog-site, I created Grandfather Berg.

My interest in family history centres predominantly around my paternal Grandfather, Alfred Berg, who started the Australian branch of the Berg Family, of which I am descended. Grandfather was born with a more Swedish name in Gothenburg, Sweden, in 1877, than he died with in Bankstown, Australia, in 1959.  

Because I like a challenge, my research is focussed on my Swedish side, and Grandfather deserves a website of his own because so little is known of his early life. I don’t speak Swedish, but I understand a few Swedish words that help isolate vital information from Swedish records.

When did Grandfather change his name? When and why did he leave Sweden? These questions remain unanswered but deserve my full attention. 

My Ancestors

Grandfather isn’t my only ancestor worthy of a blog, so I created the Family History Vault to capture the stories of both sides of my family. And therein lies the change that the August winds are prompting.

I fell short of the required thirty-one blogs for the July Ultimate Blog Challenge, but I managed to increase the blog-width of this site in the process. Now it’s time to abandon these pages for a while, to add to the stories that are waiting to be told on my other sites.

When I am no longer a participant in the race we call ‘life’, future generations will hopefully find a foothold in their family history search, through the stories I have written. And maybe by researching my family in general, I might unearth vital information about Grandfather’s Swedish family.

I hope that future generations won’t have to work as hard to find their ancestor’s stories as the current generation has in finding theirs. 

And that is why I will continue to research, write, and fill the pages of the Family History Vault with the stories of those who have gone before us.

Their stories must be told.

It’s July Already; I’m Ready To Write, Read, and Connect

Everyone needs a holiday, especially from those tasks they do just to accommodate someone else, and July is the month my family and friends can step down and relax for a few weeks.

I’ve been plodding along with this, and a few other websites, for longer than I can remember, and unless I commit to the Ultimate Blog Challenge (UBC) now and then, I’m sure the only ones who read my posts are a few family members, and even fewer friends. So this month, being the July UBC, there will be some thankful people who can kick back and relax, knowing that someone else is (hopefully) reading my words of wisdom humour random thoughts. In fact, the regular readers can take the month off without a twinge of guilt (but I’ll need you back here in August, so don’t get too comfortable).

Reaching a wider audience attracts good, honest feedback. Family and friends are great, but because we connect socially, their comments have to be at least tinged with a bit of bias. I mean, that’s what family and friends do, right? But strangers reading your blog and commenting, that’s a whole different ball game. Their feedback has to be believed because they don’t risk sitting awkwardly across the table from you at the next family function. Strangers can say it how it is, and their thoughts are the building blocks on which our writing improves.

We usually seek out bloggers who write about topics we have an interest in, so our blogging circle is girded by and contained within our interests. The UBC stretches the limit of our comfort zone by exposing us to a wider scope of blogs. One of the requirements of the UBC is to comment on the two blogs above your own post on the UBC website each day. We each read more widely, outside our realm of interests, and are exposed to different styles of writing. Our writing only stands to gain from the exposure.

July is here, and here I am, ready to write, read, and connect with new blogging friends I haven’t met yet.

Let the July UBC begin!

Admiration – it’s not about the outer layers…

In my life of golden opportunities, of seemingly being in the right place at the right time, I’ve met some amazing people. Too many to acknowledge in one blog-post, but worthy of mention, collectively.

So what kind of person elicits my admiration?

It isn’t about how someone looks, what kind of car they drive, or what special talents they have.

It’s what is inside that matters.

Let me explain…

My husband died almost seventeen years ago, and after we’d been together about ten years, a work-colleague asked me if Bill had a moustache (don’t ask me how we got onto that subject because I can’t remember). I thought about it, then answered that I didn’t know. The obvious explanation was that he wasn’t standing in front of me, so how could I be expected to know that? My colleague was flabbergasted, but it made perfect sense to me.

When Bill arrived home that evening, the first thing I said was, ‘oh, you do…’.

I relayed the conversation about the moustache. Bill was flabbergasted. Apparently he had always had a moustache, at least since he’d known me. He asked me what I saw when I looked at him. ‘Your mind’, I answered.

It was never about what he looked like. It was about the conversations we’d had over the years. It was about our combined love of technology when we met – he knew about computers, I wanted to know more, and love grew from that shared interest.

It was a perfect match.

And that’s how it has always been.

A friend asked me once to tell her what colour her eyes were (the conversation centred around how ‘unobservant‘ I was). Now that was a really dumb question. She was driving us somewhere at the time and as I explained to her, “how can I tell you what colour your eyes are, you’re not looking at me”.

She was flabbergasted, just as Bill, and my work colleague, had been about the moustache conversation.

I can’t describe their physical features, but I can tell you how someone makes me feel. I can tell you about the conversations we’ve had, and about their beliefs, and what I’ve learned from them. And I can tell you how much I admire them for what they do for others.

Admiration for someone has nothing to do with the outer layers, because outer layers don’t last. It’s about someone who opens their mind and lets me in, totally absorbed in the moment. No flashy cars, or special talents, just someone who invites me into their world, whether it is for an hour, a year, or a lifetime.

These are the moments that last forever.

These are the people I admire.

The Wheels Fell Off But I’m Back, Did You Miss Me?

The October Ultimate Blog Challenge started, and almost ended for me after just one blog post. I was there, then I wasn’t. Did you notice my absence? Did you miss me?

After I posted the first blog on my site, I linked it on Facebook, read two other posts and made comments – as per the Rules of the challenge.

Two people promptly commented on my blog and I was excited! I know they commented because they added the words ‘Commented’ on the Ultimate Blog Challenge Facebook group.

I’m sure I’m not the only one with a blog site who loves getting comments – especially comments from real people – I mean people other than my family. Not saying family aren’t real people – but they probably feel obligated to read my blog and leave a comment. Actually, I wonder if they’re just making sure I haven’t written anything about them? Well, it all makes my stats look a bit better so I’m cool with that.

But I lost the comments!

Actually, I didn’t find them in the first place so I couldn’t really lose them. But they were missing, regardless of who lost them.

When I logged into my website to read the feedback, there was nothing there. A blank comments box from the Post page stared back at me.

And there was nothing in the Comments or Feedback sections associated with the relevant plugins, or anywhere else in the machinery-room of my website, and trust me, I looked everywhere.

It was in that moment between panic and frustration that I realised I may have put the cart before the horse.

In my haste to get my mojo back by signing up to the October Ultimate Blog Challenge, I failed to do the necessary maintenance on the vehicle I expected would carry me through the challenge – my website.

In other words, the wheels fell off because I had been slack!

With all the time I had on my hands during lockdown, I barely even looked at my website. I guess it’s pretty much the way I grow house-plants. I bring them home, sit them in a nice sunny spot, and then expect them to take care of themselves. But since they haven’t evolved enough to actually turn the tap on to get themselves a glass of water when they need it, they usually don’t survive.

Websites don’t survive on their own either.

You can’t ignore a website and expect it to keep going. It won’t. If you have plugins, they need to be updated. It’s kind of like cogs.

Image by Arek Socha from Pixabay 

While they all keep turning, everything is sweet. But if one of them gets out of synch with the others, they all come to a grinding halt, usually with a lot of screeching and grating sounds – and yep – that’s what happened. Actually, the screeching and grating sounds were from me, but it was still an ugly scene.

The end result?

The comments were missing!

And it didn’t take long to work out that the missing comments was only part of the problem.

My website needed a big overhaul.

After wasting three days (and nights) trying to sort it out, I appealed to my son for help. He knows about these things because he is a real website-builder (as opposed to my hobby-worthy dabble in building websites).

It took him a couple of hours and he fixed the problem, as well as giving me the advice I probably didn’t need to hear (again…).

Delete, Delete, Delete!

I guess hoarding carries over to inactive plugins and themes in the digital world, not just the overflowing stash of fabrics in the corner of my sewing room.

My son moved my site over to a different hosting company; I deleted all of the some of the excess plugins and themes (I’m booked into therapy for the rest of them). I’ve had some of those plugins for years! And what if I need them again? It isn’t easy deleting them, but I’ll work on it.

And guess what I found tonight!!

An email alerting me to:

A new comment on the post “How COVID-19 Stole My Mojo!” is waiting for your approval

Awesome!!

Okay – it was a comment from a family member – but at least I know it all works again. And I’m expecting comments from real people, real soon (says the eternal optimist).

So, did you miss me?

Or did you not even notice I wasn’t there, blogging away on the Ultimate Blog Challenge?

I’m not sure if I’ll make it to the end of the challenge now that I’m a few days behind, but I’ll certainly give it a go.

WYSIWYG!

If you’ve been around the tech world for a while, you will have come across WYSIWYG.

I remember the first time I heard the word.

WYSIWYG!

I am still fascinated by the sound the word makes as it slides off your tongue.

Wait – You haven’t heard of WYSIWYG?

WYSIWYG – What You See Is What You Get

Think – WizzyWig, and you’ve got it.

Never mind what it means, it just sounds cool, doesn’t it?

But WYSIWYG is more than just a pretty face word.

I’m a blogger. I know other bloggers. And we all spend a lot of time writing blogs.

So why would we want to spend heaps of time putting code into a website?

Don’t get me wrong, I love using HTML!

But I’m not trained in HTML – I just dabble in it.

Like:

“Google – What’s the HTML for a heading?”

There is something romantic and mysterious about using HTML, but it’s like drinking decaf coffee…. Why would you bother?

I built my website the easy way – on the WordPress platform. And WordPress has Gutenberg. Using Gutenberg is as easy as building with blocks.

That’s a very simplistic description because Gutenberg does a heck of a lot more than that.

If I want to add a Heading with Gutenberg – I just select the heading I want, and Gutenberg does the HTML for me.

WordPress didn’t always have Gutenberg.

Gutenberg launched with WordPress 5.0. I’d been hearing about it for a while at Meetups and WordCamps, and I couldn’t wait to get my hands on it. So when a Beta version plugin was announced prior to the launch, I installed it on my main website. But not without some deliberation.

From the first encounter, I was hooked. And it was the WYSIWYG that snagged me.

Sadly, some of the platforms I write for don’t use Gutenberg, so I still get to dabble in some of the romantic HTML stuff.

But for the rest of my writing?

I love WYSIWYG!

Wait…How Did I Build a Website?

I remember the long, hard days of a career that seemed to go on forever. And the Bucket List of places I wanted to see, books I wanted to read, and courses I wanted to take. But nowhere on that long list of ‘will-do’s’ did I write – build a website. Build a website was not ever on my retirement radar.

So how did ‘build a website’ happen?

If I retrace my footsteps, I can probably see how the idea may have formed, albeit fairly loosely.

I guess it really began in the mid-Eighties. We were living on Penang Island in Malaysia at the time. It was a two-year posting and I had finished my teacher-training a year or two before we left Australia.

As we flew out of Sydney, I waved goodbye to friends and family and life as I had known it. And a job I had been happily working in since graduation.

The posting was code for a two-year holiday – for those of us who kept the home-fires burning for the serving-member we were married to. But trust me – there were no home-fires burning anywhere for that two years. Penang only has one season – HOTV-E-R-Y HOT!.

The biggest decision I had to make for two years was – which restaurant to meet friends at for lunch. Or – which craft group to go to on any given day.

Image by onyva from Pixabay 
Famous Street Art in Penang

Until we bought a computer!

At first I was too afraid to even turn it on. I was sure one wrong key-press would delete everything that the braver, more knowledgeable family members had carefully saved. So I just stood back and admired it.

This was not a stance I could maintain. I really wanted to know what that computer could do. But it was just too daunting.

‘Just do it, Mum’, he said. ‘You’ll figure it out.’.

My son assured me he had backed everything up so I really couldn’t do too much damage.

And that was the beginning of my love for all things technology.

Of course, back in the Eighties, computers were sold to women as an amazing tool for storing recipes!

Yep – you certainly could and I certainly did.

But I wanted to know more, so I found an evening course in basic computer skills. The only problem was, it wasn’t exactly B-A-S-I-C. I was in a class with young people, learning how to write programs using the old DOS system. As far as I can remember, DOS stood for Disk Operating System – but I might be wrong on that – the Eighties were so long ago.

Write a Program

My first assignment was to write a program that would enable an assistant at the front of the restaurant, to send an order directly to the kitchen.

I had no idea simple commas could have so many meanings. One comma in the wrong place meant the program wouldn’t run. As simple as my program was – I was proud of the fact that I eventually made it work.

And how far have we come? Try walking into a McDonalds these days and finding a human to interact with. Orders are now placed on the computer at the door. Or via a Smart Device before we even get to the door.

You’ve gotta love technology – or not…

Fast forward to our posting back to Australia and the resumption of my teaching career in 1986. Computers were still a bit of a mystery for some, but my planning was backed up on the trusty old computer.

When I eventually took the giant step back into study to upgrade my qualifications, I invested in a Mac Classic. It was simply a smallish cube. And there was certainly no Internet back then. And not a hint of colour on the screen.

That old Mac got me through a Graduate Diploma in Special Education and a Master’s Degree. By the time I enrolled in a PhD program a few years later, it was time to upgrade. And it was time for a laptop.

Having the Internet and email by then was just the icing on the academic cake. I made it through almost two years of my PhD, but eventually faded back into normal existence. Working long days at school (yes – I was still teaching full-time) and studying at night and weekends just wasn’t sustainable. “I’ll finish my PhD when I retire”, I told myself… somewhat disbelievingly.

And speaking of retirement….

Life continued to hurdle on through the years until one day, I woke up to find that retirement age had passed me by. And I was tired.

I pulled the resignation form out of my back pocket and laid it carefully on the Principal’s desk. He understood. He looked as tired as I felt.

I had been hearing about Bloggers and Blogging for a couple of years before I hung up the chalk for the last time (joking – we had Smart Boards by then). I had no idea what Blogging was all about, but I figured it was something I wanted to learn. And I figured it meant having a website to ‘blog’ on.

So I asked my techie-son how to build a website. After all, he was all grown up and designing websites for clients by then. I secretly thought this was in the bag. My son would whip one up for me in no time. All I would have to do was maintain it.

Wrong!

He told me to go to the WordPress.com website.

“It’s easy, Mum”, he said. “You’ll figure it out.”.

And I did.

With online support from the WordPress fraternity and a bit of trial and error thrown in for good measure, I set my first website up.

But work was still there in the background.

I got super-busy for the next couple of years and didn’t give much thought to the website.

That is, until the retirement cruise to Vanuatu was over and my feet were planted firmly on the ground of my retirement unit – the place I now call home.

Right – so what does a person do when they retire?

They build a website – or three – and start blogging. I had already read a few of the long awaited books and ticked off a few places on my travel Bucket List, so I started writing. I’m still not sure what blogging actually is, for someone like me who isn’t selling anything, but I’m having a go at it.

I don’t have a particular niche. I just write.

When I was stuck for a topic once – I wrote the A-Z of Windows and Doors. It was kind of like a mini-series and I was able to use some of the hundreds of photos I’ve taken – of windows and doors. I’m not sure why I’m obsessed with taking photos of windows and doors – maybe there’s a therapist somewhere for that.

And now I find myself devoting way too much, yet not nearly enough time to blogging and writing. Blogging – when I sign up for the Ultimate Blog Challenge – and writing – when it’s only my loyal family and friends reading my words.

So maybe it all started back in the Eighties with that first computer, but I have no idea where it will all end.
I just know that whatever is destined to happen – will happen – as everything in my life always has and always will – just happen.
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